“She/he really wanted to do it, so I was prepared to give it a try” is often heard and again it can work if swinging goes on to become a joint pastime. There is an adage in American swinging about female newbies being dragged reluctantly into clubs at 8pm and having to be dragged out again at 8am. However, there are also couples where the woman is not really interested in sex herself, but is prepared to let hubby off the leash for a night to buy peace and quiet. This can work for the couple but can be a bore for everyone else and at Bondi Swingers we do not accommodate couples in this category.
The oldest chestnut of all is 'We were bored so we did it to try and stay together'. If a couple has a strong relationship, this can work. But if there are other strains or difficulties, swinging will not help.
Things start to go awry when one partner comes along to a swinging event against their better judgement. The keen partner will try to persuade the reluctant one to join in. Once refused, she or he will ask permission to be allowed to join in by herself/himself. The reluctant partner will then feel they are losing control, and a row ensues.
We recommend always talking things through properly beforehand. It’s better to have a row in the privacy of your own home than in front of everyone else. One option is to agree you won’t do anything the first time you come to a party. That way the ice can be broken slowly and the reluctant partner may realise his or her misgivings are not based on reality.
Parties are the best way of meeting other couples interested in recreational sex and learn about swinging. They have a number of advantages over two-on-two meetings through contact ads. Two-on-two meetings can be fraught with anxiety. If one partner feels less than enthusiastic about one of the opposite couple, the evening can be embarrassing or even disastrous.
At parties, there are plenty of different couples to choose to get to know and you are not stuck talking with one couple all night if you don’t click. The ice is easy to break as everybody knows why everyone else is there. Nobody is expecting a sexual interaction with you, and your partner in particular, so there is absolutely no pressure. You get to see what happens before deciding whether it tempts you – and if it doesn’t, you still have a pleasant and interesting evening.
Parties are also the highest expression of swinging because of the possibilities for exhibitionism and group sex. Nothing is as spectacular as a group scene at a party because they are exactly how everyone imagines orgies to be.
There are a lot of swinging parties held in Australia every weekend by swinging clubs and also by contact clubs, health/nudist clubs and couples in their homes. The problem is, they are too often held in out-of-the-way and uninspiring places; and they admit people of all ages, and that can mean enough of the old, fat and unattractive to put younger people off, especially young women. Some young couples persist, but all too many younger swingers become disillusioned and give up.
What’s special about Bondi Swingers?
We guarantee there’s no danger of dowdy venues, or lots of older or less attractive people, or just a handful of couples, or single men prowling around once the prostitute they used as a ticket in, has left.
Bondi Swingers strives to present an elite and opulent experience, with large luxury locations, soft lighting, suitable music, lots of inviting bed-space and, above all, stunning and sexually adventurous party-goers.